Author: tinthia

Wondering, searching, and wandering, I'm an earth witch with a desire to get it right in my lifetime. The flow of the river feeds my inner goddess and fuels my soul. Blessed be. :}

My Immortal Beloved: A Tribute to Healing and Remembrance

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Life has a way of taking us to places we never intended to go. Or, it takes us away from places we were heading to.

Bouquet of pink, white, and magenta peonies in a ceramic pitcher

In 2019 my sister passed from a battle with ovarian cancer. Dyan was my friend, muse, cheerleader, sounding board, sparring partner at times, and my love. She protected me from an older sister, bullies at school, and myself. Without her by my side, I’ve been lost, spending way too much time in the rabbit hole of depression.

Finding a Path to Healing

In the hopes of healing my broken heart and soul, I wrote My Immortal Beloved. You see, that is what I would call her when our nightly phone calls ended—her in the sterile hospital room and me safely in my bed.

‘Goodnight, my immortal beloved,’ I would say.

‘Goodnight, Tinthia,’ she would reply.

My heart broke each time our call ended.

Dyan and Baby, July, 2019

A Place Deep Inside of Me

Lately, I’ve been having disquieting dreams about my sister being alive. At first I am shocked that she is still alive, then thrilled that I was wrong these past seven years. I try to hold her but she pushes me away. She yells at me but I can’t understand what she is saying. All I know is she is mad as hell. Boy, did my sister have a temper.

I wake each morning wondering what she is trying to tell me. You see, I cared for her at the end of her life and was by her side her last days in hospice care. I wonder if she is angry that I didn’t save her? Or am I angry at myself because I couldn’t save her?

One must understand pain before one can heal.

Understanding grief is easy. We miss the person for which we grieve; long to hold them, feel their warmth. But when the pain lingers, when the wound refuses to close, how can we move forward? Loss is not something we simply ‘get over,’ as people like to say. And, if I heal does that mean I will lose her again?

“You will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it.” — Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

So true.

And Then I Remember

I pick up my phone to call you
And then I remember

I text you
And then I remember

I think of you and smile
And then I remember

I laugh then stop
Because I remember

I wake each morning
And I remember

The wound in me yawns, revealing the emptiness
When I remember

You are gone and I am here
Remembering.
Dyan Grace Gonnella 2019

You can find the complete pieces of my soul in my book, My Immortal Beloved. It is my open heart, shared in the hopes that we can find a path through pain together.

If these words resonated with your own path through loss, leave a comment and share your journey.

Mi manchi, mia amata immortale.

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The $7,000 Inbox Trap: New Scams Targeting Indie Authors

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The Publishing Parasites: Watch Out for Scams

P.T. Barnum once said that there is a sucker born every minute. I’d like to expand on his thoughts by adding: And there is an asshole born every second.

I apologize for my language, but I’m damn mad. Lately, the number of scammers invading my inbox is growing out of control. I am constantly targeted by people claiming to be with legendary, traditional publishing houses like Little, Brown, Random House, and HarperCollins.

These jerks promise massive, completely unrealistic advances—ranging from tens of thousands to millions of dollars—or “100% royalties.” The catch? They want $5,000, $6,000, or $7,000 upfront from you to kickstart the process.

🚨 The Automated Flattery Trap

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Modern scammers are way more sophisticated than in my younger days. Thanks to AI, these scum don’t just send generic spam anymore; they use automated tools to scrape a book’s description, title, and metadata to generate hyper-specific praises designed to make an author feel validated.

Here is a real example of an email I recently received from a woman claiming to be “Kate Whitfield” at Allen & Unwin:

Subject: Inquiry regarding Catharsis: One Woman’s Journey to Healing

Dear Tinthia Clement,

I hope you’re doing well. My name is Kate Whitfield, and I am a Senior/Commissioning Editor at Allen & Unwin. While my primary focus is children’s and young adult books, I also pay close attention to distinctive nonfiction voices…

When I came across Catharsis: One Woman’s Journey to Healing, I was deeply moved by the simplicity and sincerity of the premise. What particularly caught my attention was the decision to tell such a personal journey through both words and illustrations… Natalia Lavrinenko’s involvement as illustrator also particularly interested me…

[The email continues with several paragraphs of deep, butt-kissing praise about the themes of trauma recovery, healing, and solidary.]

Warm regards,
Kate Whitfield
Senior Editor (Books for Children & Young Adults) – Allen & Unwin

How To Spot Scams

First off, I wouldn’t trust “Ms. Whitfield” as far as I could throw her. The book she is referring to, Catharsis, is my deeply personal account about surviving sexual assault. It is absolutely not, I repeat NOT a book for children or young adults. The automated system just saw the word “illustrations” and blindly assigned a Children’s/YA template to it.

I have another scammer posing as a Little, Brown representative who has been hounding me for weeks. I tell her to go away and she, like toe-nail fungus, just keeps reappearing. Give me a break!

How to Protect Yourself as a Writer

Scammers will always exist; that’s just the reality of living in a world with other humans. However, we can protect ourselves by remembering the golden rule of traditional publishing: Money always flows to the author, never from the author. If a real publisher wants you, they pay you. If they ask for thousands of dollars upfront for marketing, printing, or editing, it is a scam. Period.

How to Protect Yourself as a Human

Keep in mind the old saying: If it’s too good to be true, it probably is.

Never give money to ANYONE. Okay, maybe your sister, but never someone who you’ve never met. Unless, of course, you’re buying candles from Yankee Candle. That’s perfectly fine.

How You Can Help Indie Authors

If you want to support real art and real writers, you don’t need thousands of dollars. You just need to do this:

  • Buy our books
  • Leave honest reviews
  • Spread the word to help other readers find our stories

And watch out for scams. Just because a sucker is born every minute, you, and I, don’t have to be one of them.

🛡️ Where to Check Before You Sign

If you ever receive an email that feels even slightly off, do not rely on your gut alone. Head over to Writer Beware, a phenomenal watchdog site sponsored by the Science Fiction and Fantasy Writers Association (SFWA). They maintain an updated database of active vanity press schemes, impersonators, and fraudulent agencies targeting indie authors.

What do you think?
As an indie author, reading community support is what keeps me going against these grifters. If you’ve ever discovered an indie book through a review or word-of-mouth, let me know in the comments—I’d love to hear what brought you to our stories!

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Misplaced Modifiers, Dangling Participles, and Grammatical Demons—Oh My!

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Think about the last book you read, or the book you’re currently reading. Have you noticed any misplaced modifiers, dangling modifiers, or dangling participles?

What the heck is a misplaced modifier?

A misplaced modifier is when a descriptive word or phrase is placed too far from the noun it is meant to describe.

I don’t know about you but I was not a grammar nerd in high school.

Here’s an example of a misplaced modifier: Covered in chocolate, the boy eagerly ate the cake.

I never coated my son in chocolate.

What the heck is a dangling modifier?

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A dangling modifier is when a descriptive word or phrase does not logically connect to the subject of the sentence phrase or word it follows. (OMG! Grammar headache!)

In human-speak, it’s when the descriptive word or phrase connects to the wrong noun.

Example: The cat ran after the mouse wearing a red collar.

I know Cinderella dressed her mice up in clothes (yup, I’m a Disney princess at heart), but real mice don’t usually wear collars.

What the heck is a dangling participle?

Dangling participles happen when an introductory phrase with an -ing or -ed word modifies the wrong noun.

I don’t know about you but I always zoned out when my English teacher talked about modifiers.

Running down the street, the cell phone slipped out of her pocket.

My cell phone has never once run down the street. Has yours?

Grammar Shades of Grey

One of my favorites from a wildly popular novel is: “Leaning forward, his breath fans across my neck.”

I hate it when my breath starts leaning!

How about: Gasps erupt from my throat, clutching the sheets.

I’ll let you figure that one out for yourself.

Lazy Writing

I’ve read many books where inanimate objects do all manner of strange things, from running to sitting to reading to leaning. To be honest, I’m guilty of these grammar transgressions as well! However, it’s up to authors to avoid lazy writing as much as possible and because of this, I’m on a hunt for these demons in my current manuscript and when I find one, I’ll eradicate the little devil.

If you find one in my books let me know. But be gentle, because I’m tired after chasing my cell phone down the street.

Dangling Modifier Quiz: Test Your Skills

Test your editing eyes! Spot the mistake in these three sentences.

  1. Walking through the park, the trees looked beautiful covered in autumn leaves.
  2. I served steak to the guests on paper plates.
  3. Wrapped in bright foil, the toddler devoured the candy bar.

Drop your fixed versions in the comments below, and let’s see who can catch them all! (Oh, I love Pokemon!)

Happy reading, and writing!

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